Monday, July 8, 2013

The letter

It is with a heavy heart I want everyone to know what is going on with my dad, incase you are led to encourage him by mail. He was doing good upon his release of serving his time, I believe he got out mid April. But evidently he started drinking a couple weeks ago, this I learned last Tuesday when we visited him and he displayed his inability to stay sober. I asked him if he just wanted to be a drinker and he said no, he likes cigarettes too. Wife said if that was his lifestyle he wold have to live alone, he said probably. The next day he took off only to be arrested after spending the night in a hotel and then becoming belligerent and unsafe at a local business. The owner called Wife. Dad was booked on disorderly conduct and also 5th degree assault- fear of bodily harm or death. Bail was set, not sure if he even tried calling Wife, she is ready to walk- he is disconnected and unable to recognize what is even normal behavior. Conditions to bail are that he pay for and use the alcohol monitoring, so quite certain he will serve time until his July 19 court date. If you have time, perhaps send him a note reminding him he has many years left that can be good or bad, that he needs to do what his kids are saying and his wife and he can get through this. Honestly, I am going to write him and just put it all on the table, because I think he isn't even understanding concepts and his mind has become mushy and disorientated. But that should not stop us from trying! Please pray that God removes these challenges for him and renews his mind to be focused on being healthy and connecting with his family and others, even that he gets psychiatric care. It really sucks to think his elderly years might be so consumed with this alcoholism and mental health yuck. He did visit a neurologist; however, he seemed to pass their random office tests and Wife chose to not give the letter my brother had written identifying the bizarre and concerning behaviors, she claims they discussed those things, yet I remain unclear and disappointed as to why she didn't give the letter. Please pray for him and consider sending him some truths, he is confused and consumed in delusions and fog right now. His little chore lists from his wife, who works wayyyy too much; and crosswords caught up to him and the reality of him being incompetent to engage with the community and feel worthless about his current statuses leads him to drink, straight vodka. Anyhow, we appreciate your prayers and any insights for him you might have. Perhaps a flood of love might rock his boat enough to find peace and wisdom from God to find s self again. Thanks,